blog On Dating : You Can Only Change One Thing

On Dating : You Can Only Change One Thing

Early March, 2020 My apartment is dark and the screen is bright and I feel like we are all becoming less human somehow. It appears Joe Biden is ahead of Bernie Sanders in the primaries. It feels like a scam. We can all feel it. No way they were going to take it from Bernie …

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blog On Marriage : Organizing the Closets

On Marriage : Organizing the Closets

There isn’t a playbook for how to take care of yourself after you’ve upended your entire life. I wish there was something. To really make sure you’re okay. – Saturday I’m at the beach right now. Well, on a bluff above the beach so I don’t have to touch the sand. Law Street. It’s from …

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blog On Dating : *Judgment Enters the Chat

On Dating : *Judgment Enters the Chat

I could tell from her voice on the phone that she had been drinking. Maybe a fair amount. She was cheerful at first and later it settled into something more sad. I could hear it as the night went on, an emptiness that came about because the world was not her friend.  She was telling …

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blog On Dating : Making Up

On Dating : Making Up

I was back at Augurs Well last night after walking Maddy to her Lyft. I felt like moving around in the city after such a night and I was drawn to the comforting dive bar like a beacon was flashing right next to the milk stout tap handle.  I like the guy who owns it, …

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blog On Dating : Do You Want to Read What I Write?

On Dating : Do You Want to Read What I Write?

Waking up to a different world than I knew yesterday. When I went to bed all was uncertain but we were still talking so it was uncertain but we were together in it.  Now we are apart because she is taking time to process things and I am left to wonder what any of it …

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blog On Dating : Removing the Discomfort

On Dating : Removing the Discomfort

When Maddy left last night I felt a burning in my chest for her. I wanted (needed) her back and felt my stomach rotating wondering when I’d see her again.  In the past, I would’ve considered that a good thing. Falling for someone. But I realize now that it’s more of a hunger to remove …

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blog On Dating : The Breakups

On Dating : The Breakups

I’m on the phone with Ashley talking about how to break up with Erica. “I just don’t know how to phrase it.. Listen, I have something tough to say…I like someone else. Or, I don’t see a future together…?” “No, wait. I got it. It’s from all my years watching The Bachelor. You tell her …

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blog On Dating : Two Nights in a Row

On Dating : Two Nights in a Row

I’m on the couch listening to Bach on the stereo. Maddy is in bed sleeping. She woke up early (9:30am) with me yesterday and today I am giving her a break from such a demanding schedule.  Last night marked two consecutive nights with her staying over. “Do you feel weird about staying over again?” I …

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blog On Dating : Finally

On Dating : Finally

We got into some more serious talks. She had been drinking. I could tell when I saw her face come up on my phone. Everything she did took half a second too long. Her grin lingered.  She wanted to tell me some things about her past. People I’ve dated always think that is important. That …

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blog On Dating : Watering My Plants

On Dating : Watering My Plants

I took a chance and didn’t pack any clothes for this trip. One night and one day in Texas before flying back home. It sounded advanced to travel with only the clothes on my back, like I was in the CIA. Then I spilled oil-based sauce on my crotch right before having to do an …

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