blog On Marriage : The Beginning Part 5 – “I’m Not Attracted to You”

On Marriage : The Beginning Part 5 – “I’m Not Attracted to You”

Saturday 11/8/14 8:47AM Woke up at 6:30. Was up til 1:30 reading Peaceful Warrior. It’s just starting to get good. I’m still solid on my speech. Preparation removes nerves. Maybe I could even look forward to it. The big fundraiser for the Hale Foundation was that day. 300 people would come together for a yoga …

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blog People are dying. The world is falling apart. This is the best time of my life.

People are dying. The world is falling apart. This is the best time of my life.

4.29.20 People are dying. The world is falling apart. This is the best time of my life.  I’ve always found hugging people hello and goodbye to be awkward. I’ve documented many times my inability to predict which handshake or five will be used during greetings.  I know there are many people having horrible experiences. Suffering …

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blog New Life : Maddy 3rd Date :)

New Life : Maddy 3rd Date :)

1:13AM: Dining table, NYC Madison.  The place she took me was called Bar Belly. She asked what I was in the mood for and I said something cozy with live music and good drinks.  Bar Belly was cozy with live music and good drinks. It was a long and narrow basement bar – like every …

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blog New Life : Erica Take 4 – How Is There Still No Kiss?

New Life : Erica Take 4 – How Is There Still No Kiss?

I was planning on kissing Erica tonight. I knew I would. Our fourth date with the last one ending in a missed kiss opportunity that we talked about for weeks. Everyone knew it was going to happen except, apparently, her.  “““““““““““““““““““““““““““““` 10:21pm My Couch, NYC. Listening to Erik Satie & Friends Writing These Stories She …

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blog New Life : Building Trust + Codependency

New Life : Building Trust + Codependency

One of the beautiful things about couple’s therapy is that you can use what you’ve learned for the rest of your life.  I’ve been talking with Ben, who has also recently begun dating again, about how we are in the beginning of our relationships.  It started during a dinner with him, Ashley, Ang, and myself …

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blog New Life : Maddy Date Two and Other Affairs

New Life : Maddy Date Two and Other Affairs

*cover image originally posted here 12.5.19 12:09AM : Apartment, NYC Here I am. Back in the city. A stranger again in a foreign place. I am reminding myself which streets go where. A layer is immediately put on; the layer of effort, of cool. Even taking my recycling down requires additional thought – am I …

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blog On Marriage : Working Together

On Marriage : Working Together

Alexis had always been interested in photography. She took a class in college and her teacher thought she had an eye. She keeps the photos from her class trip to Italy on her desktop like a family heirloom she can reference as a reminder that she is good and she is talented.  I had always …

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blog New Life : Erica 3rd Date

New Life : Erica 3rd Date

“Waittt, how long are you gone for? You leave Sunday?” Erica texts me after driving away in her Uber. “I need a redo on that goodbye,” I respond. I didn’t get to kiss her. It was rushed and not how I wanted it.  “When can you say goodbye again?”  “I leave Sunday morning.” Thumbs down. …

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blog On Marriage : The Last Days Part 1

On Marriage : The Last Days Part 1

Less crying today. After you recite the lines so many times they begin to lose the effect. I called Jenny. Alexis called Rachel. I texted Greg. She talked to her friends in LA. Everyone is sad. No one is shocked. It ended fast. But then again, it started that way.  I do think about how …

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blog On Marriage : The Beginning Part 4

On Marriage : The Beginning Part 4

11/4/14 2:42pm At lulu. Alexis just returned my pants. Now I have $1400 on my gift card. Every year they gave me a $2500 to make sure whenever I was teaching or speaking I was wearing their gear.  Everyone there was happy to see me. They always were. Telling me how awesome I was. Part …

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